I have been meaning to write this article, due to the fact that it has been really bothering me that my brother ALWAYS borrows me money.
The thing about all of this, is the fact that he NEVER pays me back and yet he continues to borrow, over and over again.
I know, some of you may think I’m missing a couple of screws, but sometimes my heart lets me do things even if I know I can’t afford it.
Think About Things Before Even Lending A Penny
I obviously learned things the hard way. I never expected him to pay me a penny back, but something happened that has finally drawn the line.
First of all, I never once asked him to give me a cent. On top of that, I never say no when he asks me to “borrow” more money.
To make things even worse, I GAVE him a car. Want to know what he did that has changed my thoughts on ever lending money out again? He lied!
I have never said no to him, and I am usually too busy making money online that I don’t even care what his reasons are for borrowing money.
Same Old Lines
This dude would come up with the same 3 stories every single time he wanted to borrow money.
- I need to buy diapers
- I need gas (for the car you just gave me)
- They’re about to cut my electricity
Like I said, I really don’t have any problems when it comes to “lending” people money, but I can’t stand being lied to.
So the latest line he used on me, was the 3rd one. Like always, I was super busy trying to get things done for my online business. that I just wanted to get this whole thing out of the way.
The good old “they’re going to cut my power” trick was his lie of choice. I rushed to get him the money from the bank (not thinking of course), just so I can get his power to stay on and I can go about my business.
Pay Attention to Everything
Being that I am so “busy”, I never really thought about what he was really doing with the money, nor did I care.
The difference with this specific month, was the fact that with all the investing I do, I was kind of short on change for the remainder of the month.
He asked me to borrow, I told him my situation, and he still insisted that he really needed the money or they’ll cut his power.
Not having a care in the world about what I was dealing with, he took the money.
Sometimes You Have to Listen to Others
It wasn’t until my other half brought it to my attention that he was using it for something else and his power wasn’t going to get shut off.
I told her never mind about it, but she was pissed. We didn’t have the money to be lending out and I just lent out the last of what we had.
I was too busy and I was too blind to see this con artist’s work happening right in front of my eyes.
His little puppy dog “I really need money” eyes got the best of me and I rushed out the door to give him whatever I had.
Take Control of Your Emotions
Before you start letting people money, like you’re some kind of Bank of America, please don’t let anyone fool you.
Some people will take you kindness and flip you around like a fish out of water. Rather than being nice about things, find out what is really going on before you make the same mistake I did.
Now I don’t see this brother of mine. So not only did he scam me, but now he’s too embarrassed to show his face around my place.
I Only Have Myself to Blame
Although I’m still a little bothered with the fact that I was just lied to, I only have myself to blame.
I guess a car and a couple of thousand dollars is not enough for some people, even if it’s a family member.
No matter how close you think someone is to you, always have your guard up. Do not let people take advantage of you my friend, or you’ll be just like me.
So where did the Money go?
Gambling! I really can’t believe that all this time that he was telling me his power was about to get cutoff that he was out there trying to get rich by gambling.
On top of that, I think he was involved with some druggies, which made me even more pissed.
Be careful when you let people “borrow” money. Sometimes you are not really helping anyone, but rather allowing them to go further into a hole.
Know When to Give
Don’t get me wrong. I am a very giving person (obviously), but sometimes I need to step back and really look at everything that is happening around me.
Rather than trying to just give money like I’m some kind of millionaire, I know this time around, that I can’t be doing that.
Yes, I may feel bad for not giving it, but there has to be a stop to this madness. I guess I’ll stick to giving to the homeless and those who are in real need of some assistance.
The moral of the story is not to tell you to stop giving, but to tell you not to let people step all over you.
It took my other half (whom I don’t listen to that much) to tell me that I was being conned.
Sometimes you just need to sit there and think about what is really going on around you. I don’t care if you’re a stay at home dad like me, you still need to look out for yourself.
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